“ Absinthe makes the heart grow fonder”
Can men and women ever really be platonic friends? I used to think so. I mean I honestly believed it and did not just pay lip service to the theory of platonic friendships.
I don't think it is true anymore. There always seems to be an undercurrent somewhere... Even if it is fleeting and left you wanting to stab your eye out with a fork, it is still there and I don't get it….
Is it a territoriality issue? Is it enough to know you could schtup them .. Is that the pre-requisite for turning your mind toward a less nekkid relationship?
What about men that have always just been a friend and only a friend and you find yourself high or drunk and contemplating disrobing and kissing them. Then there is the male friend that just suddenly out of the clear blue announces he has feelings for you. Feelings you were unaware of and even if you were not unaware you were willing to be unaware to preserve the friendship. There is no winning... It is logistically impossible. How the hell do you do this!!!????
All my best friends have been male. Why? I don't know. That is just the way it shook out. There was always a period where I never knew if the friendship would survive the sexual tension and settle into something worth having dinner with. A couple truly became platonic friendships without taking the cure, some I had to make ex's before we could make friends.
What is the upshot of this? I don't know.. I would confer with my best friend but he is male..
In Absinthe Veritas,
Tallulah Crankhead
